| Giaus | I have no choice. I’m sorry Gwen. |
| Gwen | In life you always have a choice. Sometimes it’s easier to think you don’t. |
| Giaus | Well then, my choice is to leave. |
Merlin (UK only): Series 1, Episode 6; A remedy to cure all ill
*****
We make choices every day of our lives, every hour of our days, every minute of our hours and every second of our minutes. Our lives are replete with decisions and many of these choices we make consciously, spending minutes, hours, days, weeks and even months on them. Others are made in a split second, things we say in conversations, things said when high on the drug of happiness or low due to a lack of it.There are some instances when due to circumstances we choose not to choose. But is it not paradoxical that when a person has a decision to make and does not make it, that in itself is a choice? And why do we do that? In such situations where we feel we have no choice and thus are indirectly forced to do something, we do it to protect ourselves or those really close to us. In doing so we may trample on others, the truth and much more to make sure we are safe. Blinded by our fear and that of the consequences we make ourselves believe what we are doing to be right. But is it ever right?
One way of defining a person is by their choices. People are commonly described as being reckless, driven by passion, logical (and the opposite), sharp-mined in regards to the choices they make. A person can be sweet to the core, full of goodness for others, mentally strong etcetera and yes those things do matter, but unless those internal qualities are expressed externally, no-one will be able to appreciate them or experience them. Never a judge a person on what he can or can’t do, but by what he does or doesn’t do. We all have ability, maybe not the same but ability nonetheless and some people choose to use that ability whereas others choose not to. Humans have been given free will, thus each and every day we can choose to bring light to the lives of others or take it away from them. We choose whether our actions do good or evil. It is that which raises you in the eyes of others, or condemns you to the scum of society.
Our choices shape our lives and subsequently our ourselves. This process only ends with our last breath. We are free to make choices, but we are not free to decide the consequences of our actions which may reverberate for many many years to come. Our choices are ultimately our own responsibility. Many of us have seen how sometimes we make detailed plans for our lives but our choices burn them to ashes. After all life is nothing but the sum of our choices; some good and some bad. A person learns to make good decisions after having experienced the consequences of bad ones previously made. Though none of us have the ability to see into the future, we have been given understanding which is especially important when making decisions. Until we take responsibility and accountability for our actions, we will never make worthwhile choices. ”We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them,” (Khalil Gibran).
All animals choose. It is our ability to consciously think and understand before we decide something that makes us different from animals and other organisms. But choosing to be a good human is one of the hardest choices to make. A wise person once said, “You (always) have a choice. Live or die. Every breath is a choice. To be or not to be.”
What do you choose?
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24 June 2011 at 23:30
Sometimes it's almost like we relinquish our freedom and feel there's no choice left but that is a decision in itself.. Never thought of it that way. Very perceptive :)
25 June 2011 at 00:21
hmm I must say I love Merlin. And I love this post :)
25 June 2011 at 05:17
You're right about how choice can describe a person. Our everyday lives are full of choices that we make. We've been making choices ever since we were babies, and you'd think that we'd be good at it by now lol. However, there is always those choices that require guidance and suggestions. That's how I met some of the most inspiring people in my life. By learning how to make tough decisions.
This was a great post!
Thanks for sharing x =]
25 June 2011 at 06:28
this is a thought-provoking post. :)
25 June 2011 at 12:36
what's your previous post about? :(
25 June 2011 at 12:42
Never a judge a person on what he can or can’t do, but by what he does or doesn’t do.
NICE!
25 June 2011 at 15:32
great post :)
25 June 2011 at 16:42
Beautifully written my dear Nas!
25 June 2011 at 21:21
Mash'Allah, beautifully written! And I thank you for the title of this post, it was much needed!
Indeed humans have free will to choose and decide but there is also the will of Allah that sometimes overwhelms only so we can have a will to choose and decide again, so I believe we really stand in between...
Hope you're at the best of health and Iman inshallah :)
stay well! xx
25 June 2011 at 23:10
Nas this is just beautiful & amazing!
I love how you think so perceptively
I agree with everything
x
26 June 2011 at 14:47
Ah true. We all, always have a choice, and when people justify things by saying ' I didn't have a choice' - it's usually does not have much weight to it.
28 June 2011 at 00:42
I choose to be a good person/orc yay!!! It's one of the greatest feelings in this world, especially if you feel that you did good deeds for other people.
It's true that we're not free to decide the consequences of our actions, but at the end of the day, we still have the full control and a choice on how we're going to respond. It's either embracing or resenting it.
By the way, how will you know if you're making the right decisions along the way? Is being a good decision maker a a gift or a skill?
Have a great day ^_^
28 June 2011 at 18:01
MashAllah love this post.
In particular this rings so true: 'Many of us have seen how sometimes we make detailed plans for our lives but our choices burn them to ashes.'
Can completely relate to that.
28 June 2011 at 20:24
Nas;
Is it really me? Is it really my choice to be hopeless all the time? Why I am not able to make a positive choice? and are you satisfied with the kind of choices you made for your life? I am definitely not!
29 June 2011 at 10:39
@ y.hayat: Indeed, it can feel like we are being suffocated to the extent there's nothing we can do. But we can always do something. :)
29 June 2011 at 10:40
normal.is.overrated: *hi5* my little brother watches it. And I join him whenever it's on :P.
Thanks Doctor.
29 June 2011 at 10:41
@ Yours Truly: I think you're right. There are many things in this life we have never experienced and at times do not know how to respond / what to do. A supporting shoulder on a guiding hand is always very much appreciated. Thanks man.
:)
x
29 June 2011 at 10:41
@ Bessy: Why thank you Bessy.
29 June 2011 at 10:42
@ Furree Katt: Which previous post? 8-)
29 June 2011 at 10:42
@ yasmin: Thanks!
29 June 2011 at 10:45
@ sady: Thanks Sady! :)
29 June 2011 at 10:46
@ That Girl: Why thank you very much Special K. :)
29 June 2011 at 10:47
@ Zαìήαβ: Jazakallah Zainab :). And I totally agree with you.
Hope all is well with you too!
x
29 June 2011 at 10:48
@ P x: You are too kind P! Thank you. :)
x
29 June 2011 at 10:50
@ Smokey Cat: No it doesn't, especially if you're on the receiving end of the decision someone makes.
29 June 2011 at 10:55
gelovsky: You're totally right awesome dude/orc. Money can't buy the happiness one get's when they have done something good for another person is the greatest reward in it self.
That depends on the decisions. Doing good things at the wrong time doesn't necessarily make them right. You'll know whether the choices you have made by their end result. And your experience will teach you what a good end result is.
You too man! Take care!
:)
29 June 2011 at 10:56
@ Foz: Thanks very much! I think we can in one way or another.
29 June 2011 at 11:00
@ Yogini Anya: What makes you think your choices are hopeless? If that is how you feel, then why don't you find the cause and tackle it there?
Sometimes, some things are beyond our control, and we can't choose. A person born with disability in the legs can't say that was his choice.
No, I have made some very bad choices, and I accept that.
1 July 2011 at 16:02
Hey..have you read Animal's People by Indira Sinha?... After reading this post I think you might enjoy it. =P
3 July 2011 at 12:34
Choice. The option to decide.. what to do, what to think. One of the hardest decision a person could make is to choose between what wants to do or what he ought to do... where he wants to be or where he should be..
Did you choose the right thing? Only you can answer that. :)
And yes.. this is very true. "But choosing to be a good human is one of the hardest choices to make." --> It sure is.
A very perceptive, thought-provoking post from you, Nas. Lovely.
5 July 2011 at 06:53
A person can be anything according to me-as long as they are good at heart.
And choices?I choose to live in Utopia,have a dog,skip a shower sometimes and have my peppi-cheese pizza with extra cheese..
Thought provoking post-you're like the male Carrie Bradshaw-and Candace Bushnell's awesome character-not the Gucci wearing blonde :) (you can be that too,really-We'd still be friends-I promise! :D)
8 July 2011 at 09:27
nicely written , Nas. =)
you do too have light bulbs shining brightly above your head. i choose to live each day with hope and to the fullest - because ive realized life is too short and too precious n rare.
and this quotation is very true : ”We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them,” (Khalil Gibran).
I am gonna make it my fb status.
x
9 July 2011 at 10:24
@ Roshni: No I haven't. I'll check it out! Thanks!
9 July 2011 at 10:27
@ Leah: Thank you Leah. "One of the hardest decision a person could make is to choose between what wants to do or what he ought to do... where he wants to be or where he should be.." Nicely said.
9 July 2011 at 10:27
@ Sweta: Carrie who?! Blonde? I have no idea who you're on about. Though having just googled it, I assume you're referring to sex and the city? Never watched it. XD
9 July 2011 at 10:28
:@ Sana Castellano: You're right Sana, life is the short, so make the most of it, but it's the longest thing we have so use it wisely.
:)
10 July 2011 at 01:48
Accepting every choice you made... is the right thing
10 July 2011 at 04:30
Yes yes..that! xD Yu're not supposed to watch it..it's chick territory but I definitely feel the simmilarites :P
10 July 2011 at 11:19
I so agree. I think one always does have a choice, accept it or deny it. When you choose not to make one, thats a choice in itself.
I was watching The Adjustment Bureau yesterday and the guy said 'My choices are all i have, in my life'..so true. We are what we choose to be. I so agree. I think one always does have a choice, accept it or deny it. When you choose not to make one, thats a choice in itself.
I was watching The Adjustment Bureau yesterday and the guy said 'My choices are all i have, in my life'..so true. We are what we choose to be.
10 July 2011 at 18:27
Great post :) We are all human, with the same spectrum of human emotions. Therefore the only differences between us are our circumstances and how we choose to react to them. I find that it is pointless to judge people, because given the circumstance, we will in all likelihood act the same, or even worse than the person we're judging!
12 July 2011 at 05:42
It's been a while since your last post... I'm really excited and looking forward for the next one ^_^
13 July 2011 at 02:50
I choose to be the best that I can be ;) but hey, I'm only human, and life is a struggle where you fight to be the best you can be .. while occasionally stumbling and flipping off that asshole who cuts you off in a flipping roundabout 8-)
16 July 2011 at 00:49
Great reminder. I love that we have free will, but with free will comes responsibility.
16 July 2011 at 10:21
brilliant post:D
it is the choices you make that define who you are, but everyone makes bad choices. but it is what you learn from them that matters.
”We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them,” (Khalil Gibran).
i love this quote
25 July 2011 at 07:04
where'd you go? come baackk!
i miss your wunnerfully awesome posts.
30 July 2011 at 11:19
@ Yogini Anya: Yes I guess you're right. Accepting that you can't change it, and accepting it as being right or wrong.
30 July 2011 at 11:20
@ Sweta: lol, shall I just nod my head and smile? :P
30 July 2011 at 11:24
@ The Me: Yes you are totally right. And that is an excellent quote! Thank you for sharing.
:)
30 July 2011 at 11:24
@ Azra: Touché!
30 July 2011 at 11:32
@ gelovsky: I have posted :D
30 July 2011 at 11:34
@ lil-beeyotch: lol those idiots at roundabouts. 8-) don't even get me started!
30 July 2011 at 11:39
@ hijabi hippie hypo: exactly! The greater the freedom, the greater the responsibility.
30 July 2011 at 11:39
@ Vice Versa: Nicely said VV :).