Yesterday at the hospice my colleague and I started talking about the pornographic industry. Though initial parts of this conversation maybe somewhat crude and explicit, the points raised at the end are extremely important and thought provoking.
| Him | I have been totally put off porn. |
| Me | No way? You? You like have a wank multiple times a day how can you of all people be put off it? |
| Him | 7 times a day… |
| Me | What about all that friction? |
| Him | I’ve learnt to use lube. |
| Me | Anyway, you were saying about being put off it. What happened? |
| Him | I recently read some really disturbing facts about it. |
| Me | Like what? |
| Him | For example 1 in 5 porn stars are likely to commit suicide. There was this lady who got so depressed she drove into a kindergarten and survived. And then did it again. She died the second time. Then you hear about others jumping off balconies or overdosing. |
| Me | 1 in 5? No way?! That’s bloody HUGE. And freakin’ hell man, that’s messed up. |
| Him | And like nearly all suffer from sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhoea and genital herpes. |
| Me | But I thought porn stars underwent thorough testing for that kind of stuff. |
| Him | *shakes head* I was on porn leaks. It’s like wikileaks but for porn and they had details of thousands and thousands of porn stars. They had their real name, porn star name and then some information. I had to scroll down many thousands before I came across one that passed. That is to say one that was clean. |
| Me | I’m surprised. |
| Him | And also, many of the female porn stars who have been in the industry for more than a decade or so end up having to use diapers because they no longer have the ability to retain bodily fluids. |
| Me | No freaking way. But I don’t get it, why a diaper? |
| Him | Think of this way. Getting a rod the thickness of that pipe *points at tap which is verrrrrry thick* shoved repeatedly where it shouldn’t be harms that area. |
| Me | But you hear of all these couples having a fun time nearly every night. They seem to be alright. |
| Him | Yeah but think of the aggression that is involved in porn. It’s not normal. |
| Me | I guess so. |
| Him | And do you know what really disgusted me and got me thinking? |
| Me | What? |
| Him | A doctor was quoted as saying how, if we were to see someone getting beaten up on the street, we’d do our best to prevent it. Like say for instance you saw some one beating someone else up, would you not try and stop or at least tell the person to stop? |
| Me | Yeah of course. |
| Him | And if you saw the same person getting beaten up the next day you’d do the same. And the day after and after and after that too. But there comes a time when we just can’t be bothered. It becomes a normal occurrence and when we say that we have rationalised a pretty irrational thing. |
| Me | Right. |
| Him | And the same is with porn. We rationalise the violence the girls and women are put through because ‘its a norm’ and because when we hear about them getting £5,000 per film and see them smiling after a film we accept it. And in that moment we rationalise the extreme violence and justify it. There are more pervs in the world than there are non-pervs, so it’s the way things go. The girls get strangled and slapped and thrown and put through all sorts of painful positions. |
| Me | But would you not agree to the fact that there is a difference between porn stars and people getting beaten up? |
| Him | And the same applies to sports like boxing, and cage-fighting. They’re so brutal and the injuries sustained can be so horrific. |
| Me | Yeah but porn stars, boxers, fighters, they all chose to do what they do. Whereas someone getting beaten up across the street is not their fault. They don’t choose to do it. |
| Him | That is true, but why does society act against drug addicts who ‘choose’ to take drugs but not the other people who are victims of quite serious forms of violence? |
I just want you to concentrate on what he said about rationalising the irrational to make it acceptable. Come to think of it, it happens a lot in today’s society. We are quick to find rationale for things that really shouldn’t be rationalised thus allowing us to brush those monsters away from our thoughts. Why? Why do we allow such things to happen?
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